“I have probably judged you. You read that right.
If you’re honest, you’ve likely judged me too. It’s human nature to take all the information we are sensing and receiving and form an instant opinion based on where it fits in with our worldview.
I will be completely honest regarding the thoughts that have crossed my mind, some that I am not particularly proud of.
I have judged other women working on their business, hustling to sell things, or working in MLMs or other businesses to support their families. I used to get those cold messages and fume. Now I try to politely decline and wish her well with her business. Hey, we are all just out here in the world trying to do the best for ourselves and those close to us.
I used to sit on my high-horse in medicine and judge those who worked in any field deemed “woo, woo” or pseudoscience by medicine. I am not saying I have left my ability to think critically and look at research behind, but I have just become more aware of how much bias there is in research (if you are reading anything please look at the source to see if they have a vested interest in particular results—and this goes beyond medicine). Want to know one of the reasons why I switched to a plant-based diet→ I read “How Not to Die” by Dr. Gregor https://nutritionfacts.org/about/
Now I consider myself open—open to differing opinions, open to other ways of life, open to other careers and ways to earn money, more open to learn and engage with others in general.
Challenge me to challenge my initial judgments—I honestly welcome it…as I think we all should. Really I don’t want a challenge as much as a dialogue. I have learned so much about other countries, economics, politics, art, technology, cultures simply from traveling and talking to people and being OPEN-MINDED. I think it takes intention, love and relationships to change opinions and see the world differently—particularly to combat tough issues like racism, sexism, classism, etc. So let’s be aware of our judgments and biases, and work to be open to changing them.
30 years has taught me that it is possible. I was raised around racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc whom I love dearly, but whose views toward the world I refused to take on. Don’t tell me it is all a product of how someone is raised. Education matters. Mentors matter. Being around others different than yourself matters. Intentionally working to combat inherent biases you know you have (perhaps due to how you were raised) matters!
(For those who don’t know… I am doing “30 days to 30” and sharing life lessons and stories in order to celebrate my birthday—hoping to break stigmas and stereotypes about what 30 means and looks like)